Comparison is hard. Trust me, I know how it feels. It’s a never-ending spiral of envy, doubt, and discouragement.
As a blogger, it’s hard to look past the numbers, the followers, the likes. To remember that they don’t matter. That popularity isn’t what counts.
I’ve struggled with it a lot in the past and I know I’m not the only one. . . but sometimes it feels like it.
When I see people with grand opportunities, beautiful books, exotic vacations, the things I can never imagine having or doing . . . I can’t help feeling dejected.
The comparison game is a major issue in our society today, especially with teenage girls.
It leaves us feeling inadequate compared to the other influencers out there. But we don’t have to let comparison control us. There are ways we can effectively steer clear of comparison and live free and meaningful lives!
Numbers Don’t Count
This is something that–no matter how cliche–needs to be shouted from the rooftops. Numbers don’t count. The followers, the friends, the likes, all of it doesn’t define who we are. Marie explains the truth about statistics marvelously in her post.
One of the most important things we need to accept is this: there’s always going be to someone with bigger numbers than us. Maybe they have better graphics, larger followings, more clothes. . . but none of it matters. We’re all on our own paths. It doesn’t matter if they hit a milestone sooner than you do. The time it takes to reach a destination does not lessen the purpose of the journey. Or the beauty of the reward.
You’re Not Seeing The Whole Picture
I guarantee that the people you admire struggle as much as you do. Comparison affects them the way it affects you–possibly even more. There is so much that occurs offline that people don’t talk about online. So don’t be fooled by highlight reels.
We all pass through mountains and valleys. We’re all human.
Your Presence Matters
You belong in this world. There’s a reason you’re here. You have something they don’t. You have a voice. It’s unique, and no one–no matter how hard they try–can imitate it.
“I hope that one day, you are able to look back and be so glad that your story did not look exactly like theirs. I hope you are able to be equally excited for where you are as you are for them.”~Morgan Harper Nichols~
Define Your Success
Our world likes to measure success by followers, website growth, wealth, and other materialistic things. . . But in all honesty, the definition of success is entirely up to you. For me, it may be cheering up a friend. Or posting a blog post I enjoyed writing.
Celebrate the small wins.
Social media feeds on comparison. With its stream of “perfect” pictures, it sources our feelings of inadequacy.
We all need a break from its consistent activity. Whether that be for a week, a month, a year. . . or ditching it entirely, as I did. There are A LOT more productive uses of our time than scrolling social media.
Remember why you’re doing what you’re doing. Is it to gain approval? To satisfy your craving for attention? To prove something? If these are the reasons, you may need to take some time to reevaluate.
“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
God created you to be you; not them. His love and approval are all that really matter, and he gave it to you on the cross. You are enough, you are loved, and you have nothing to prove.
Do you struggle with comparison? Were these tips helpful? What do you do when you catch yourself comparing?